They listen TO you, hurt WITH you, and CELEBRATE all great successes. When I started Cultivate Coach Training, I expected to learn how to help people, and I did that with another important dimension: I learned how to help people help themselves.
When my wife and I were facing a highly significant life transition, Scott helped us to process the decision making and relationship impact to our marriage. She has appeared on the Today show and CSPAN as an expert on publishing and she travels regularly to speak to authors and audiences about PR and social media marketing. Primary Care Services Dr.
Board of Directors - Don't pretend you're made of emotional steel. We came to the Family Greenhouse Scott and Abigail with our marriage hanging in the balance.
Don't pretend you're made of emotional steel. But relationship experts say it's all about how you manage it. Once you've been in a relationship for a while, you start to get comfortable. You're comfortable letting your partner see you without makeup, comfortable snort-laughing in front of them — and comfortable snapping at them the way you wouldn't snap at pretty much anyone else in the world. Unsurprisingly, that can be a problem. Instead of taking a step back and reflecting on the bigger picture as you would during, say, a conflict at work, the two of you shout. You storm off in a huff. The relationship experts I've interviewed have seen this pattern unfold time and time again. They've also devised several strategies for keeping everyday spats from spiraling out of control. Below are some of their best, and most practical, tactics. Just listen Couples therapist Esther Perel told me about the importance of and then reflecting back what you heard them say. Show some vulnerability Your partner has the potential to hurt you like no one else can, largely because they know your weak points and hot buttons. So when your partner says something hurtful, don't pretend you're made of emotional steel. I don't know if you were meaning to hurt me; I don't know if that's what you were going for; but that's what you did. Learn good communication skills sooner rather than later Couples can — whether to get married, what constitutes cheating — and the small stuff — whose turn it is to take out the trash, how often it's OK to check your phone. But as relationship expert and marriage counselor Rachel Sussman told me, all these conflicts come down to communication. But working on your communication skills is a big step toward resolving them all.