15 Men Share The Difference Between A Girl Who’s Just A Hookup And A Girl Who’s Girlfriend Material
In case you are still together with her, only God can help you. But before I met her I slept with more than 35 women and you can believe me when I say that most of them were not girlfriend material.
I have a theory that most of the good women get snapped up early because A. What a nightmare, and heartbreaking that this amazing girl I fell for didn't even exist. Finding a partner is becoming more of a fad, and who can blame you for playing the game yourself?
15 Men Share The Difference Between A Girl Who’s Just A Hookup And A Girl Who’s Girlfriend Material - Women equate sex with love, regardless of what we may SAY. Which means you're going to do fine no matter what I think.
Is She Girlfriend Material? As a man I KNOW how easy it is to become Captain Save-A-Hoe. So filter these women out at your own risk. Hell, even hookers can sometimes make great girlfriends. Many great guys will NOT heed this advice and it makes me sadz. Learn the subtle art of attracting beautiful women! She might appreciate your efforts but her real underlying problems are NOT your responsibility. Just laugh and walk away. The list goes on. Trading your money, time, and balls, for her approval is NOT a fair trade. These guys all want in her pants. She never shows empathy for others, except when trying to get something for herself. This is a loveless approach to making a family… I recommend you avoid these girls. Being naked is about as vulnerable as we can get with another person, especially because it leaves us open to injury emotional and physical! Women should be cautious about who they sleep with, but having such huge walls BEFORE marriage makes it impossible for a guy to REALLY get to know her… and marriage is too improtant for such a gamble. Progress with her at your own risk. Her focus is manipulation and self interest. Let me leave you with this last thought…. Leave your thoughts below: Save Save Save In my dating circles, I have found that a lot of men posess many of the negative qualities in this list. Like narcissism, depressive pessimism, jealousy, insecurity. Many men also seem attached to their exes and will talk about them or compare you to them. There are also men who profess to want children and get pouty if YOU bring the condoms. Seems like this blog can be ascribed equally to men and women. You, effecting a form of counter-spin from the male perspective is good. Lose her and disempower your attachment to such who is treating you this way. After a certain point, being teased is insulting, esp. Whether or not you come from a great situation, avoid acting like a douchebag. Making a mess of yourself or life. Then seek them for sex, security, etc. Using non-verbal indicators of interest to attract is apart of what they do, also working with the implied promise of sex and intimacy. Recognize if you feel attachment of some form. If she calls, texts you often but gives cheap excuses, or dodges attempts to hang out or do something, disconnect. Kick her and your feelings for her to the curb. Though these are apart of the mindset of destructive, vindictive, even soft bullying behavior that females will or try to effect on you. An attracted woman IS… Going to talk, make time for you. And not make an ass out of you or herself in doing so. They effect the right to choose who they want, for what or not. You have the right to recognize, accept or discard just like they do never ever forget that! If they use use the tease or implied promise to attract you then string you along, kick them to the curb for life. Be aware, avoid or go forth, at your own risk. Then situational, psychologically parasite off you. Enhance their lifestyle by listening to you go on about yourself, hobbies, activities, tastes. Then show, display, experience these with the male they want to impress or be with. Co-workers above or below you in the foodchain. Ad make sure he understands this fully. Or if things persist you just avoid contacting him. Men and Ive seen this will pursue this until the end of time. You may not think it. If you can get it through his head then be his friend. But there is no in the middle. I am not into party girls at all, I may have been when I was 26 but at around 28 I started to grow up and all of a sudden I began to find drunk flirty women unreliable and immature towards their emotional attitude to life and relationships. I personally think you are as secure in a relationship as you can be by the level of respect you are inherently given by your partner…. Trust your instincts not your paranoia — 99 percent of the time you will be right. As for the premarital sex issue, I think that it has to be a matter of shared values i. It's all personal choice, as long as people don't use it to play games but rather act true to themselves. People have to realize though that choosing to wait until marriage can turn out ugly if the couple happens to be sexually incompatible- BAD situation. But if that's the choice that the two people decided to make they get to deal with consequences. Thanks for being respectful to us women. What would be a fair action on her part? Cutting them off would not be a viable option, but what would be? Another scenario: a man asks a woman out and she tells him she is only interested in being friends. He chooses to stick around secretly pining for more than friendship. What would be a proper action on her part so that she doesn't inadvertently lead him on? The comment about not dating someone who is depressed can go the other way too. I do not think I would knowingly start dating a man who is clinically depressed. But if I fell in love with him before he became clinically depressed then I would support him. As for someone being clinically depressed, no single human being experiences it the same way or responds to it in the same manner. Another person may not do this and actually take ownership of their own illness. If a alcohol dependent person does not want to stop drinking and you have asked them if they want to stop the task is not yours to fulfil but theirs. They will only stop if they want to. But they cannot blame you for it. With depression, you cannot make someone see a psychologist, not misuse illegal substances to handle their illness, take medications, take part in activities they used to like. If it is someone you love and you are watching them unmotivated and in a dark place you can feel helpless and exasperated. Thanks again, Robert I guess I see sexual hangups as anything that prevents us from fully enjoying sex with someone we love or trust. In my opinion this includes any religious beliefs that suggest we should feel judged or shamed for our sexual desires or expressions. Your beliefs and morals should dictate what make you happy and satisfied. I simply suggest we all take a moment to question the agenda of those trying to dictate how and when we enjoy sex. Prepare to be alone. In any long term relationship you will have to deal with at least one of your ten points. You apparently have the need for a perfectly balanced partner out there for you. Loving human frailties shows empathy. All words that are undoubtedly lost on you? My advice: don't date people who believe in perfection. You had me 'till 9 as well, and I'm a bit shocked. I've actually enjoyed most of your other insights; it's nice to hear a man acknowledge a woman's need for trust. Premarital sex is just another stop on that spectrum. Yes, making a covenant contract IS a social construct. That's a good thing. It protects me from jerks who take and leave. It's the reverse of Magical Pussy. Men don't have Magical Cocks — they're not entitled to get frisky. Why should I give a man everything he wants sex when I am not getting everything I want security? Are you REALLLY suggesting that a woman who chooses to have faith isn't worth dating? There goes my respect — whoosh — I appreciate what you're saying here because it gives me a different perspective. I realize my reasons won't change how you feel on the topic of sex before marriage, but perhaps it'll help someone else. No Sex is a Red Flag to me because intimacy is everything when it comes to a long term romantic relationship. You can build a relationship upon a foundation of sharing and trust and intimacy while still being patient and cautious enough to avoid predators and liars. I suspect that in your case there are plenty of guys with the same Red Flags you have and who will be blind to your games. Which means you're going to do fine no matter what I think. Can you believe her? I have no intention in trying to disprove anything you said, I just want to know what it means so I can better deal with my current situation. Also, what would you think of a woman who says she never wants to have kids? Is this also a red flag? Or will they change their minds once her maternal side kicks in? I'm here because I followed a link to this blog, randomly posted elsewhere. I'm female but I gave this post a read anyway. You lost me at number nine. I'll be giving myself to one man, only and ever, and that man will be my husband. Hopefully he'll appreciate that. I'm not religious either. It's not a religious thing. Think about that… I appreciate the feedback, especially from a woman's point of view! Here's my thoughts on your two comments: 1 If a woman will sleep with you without a REAL commitment, then you have no way of ever truly knowing how many others there have been. I suspect you can't see how judgmental and insecure this type of thinking is…. It's ego and social conditioning that propagates such silly ideas. I don't care how many men my woman has been with, I only care that she's completely open and honest and sincere and vulnerable when she's with me, and visa versa. Think about the air we breath… how many human lungs have recycled that air before it's gone through our own lungs? It gives me life, that's all I care about. This also makes no sense. A woman's past number of partners is not directly related to her ability to commit to a man she falls in love with. My thinking is neither judgmental nor insecure. Saving myself has to do with respect for myself and respect for my future mate. It has nothing to do with social conditioning, propaganda, religion, etc. I'm not religious, and I'm very liberal, politically speaking. I don't care how many women you personally have been with. But I realize we all have personal motives in our advice and opinions. Understand that women do NOT view sex the same as men do. Women equate sex with love, regardless of what we may SAY. Therefore, it is in a woman's best interest to wait for real commitment, not the other way around believing sex will elicit a commitment. You believe a wife who has been with one partner You is no less likely to wander than one who has had countless previous partners the number to which you'll never know? A woman who has only been with one man may stray because she wants experience. Sure vanilla ice cream is nice, but how do I know how good it is without ever having tried the other flavours? Mint chocolate is totally the best. Check out some male psychology. This is not an attack. Men in relationships also perceive sex as love. You know the old phrase: A woman needs to feel loved to have sex, a man needs to have sex to feel loved. But how often do you hear of the sex-starved wife? Sorry to be a mathematics nerd, but this just screams out for a quick interjection. Correction one: in psychology you talk a bout tendencies. It doesn't represent all men, it doesn't even cover one man for all of his life. It indicates a potential that a statistically significant number of men have at some point in their lives. Generalisation really annoys me. I do partially agree with you…. Most likely influenced in somen way by your culture, family, religion, education and whatever else makes you, You. Just my personal opinion.. I have also learnt red flag warnings over the last couple of years, although one girl was incredible at saying all the right things and it wasn't until I was in love with her I started to see how full of shit she was, she was definitely a narcissist, encouraged orbiters, a vampire, drama queen etc etc. What a nightmare, and heartbreaking that this amazing girl I fell for didn't even exist. Sad part was I think she believed her own BS, so any attempt at discussing her behavior would result in child like emotional manipulation and denial. Anyway reading this article makes me realize that I basically only attract crazy women in to my life, this makes me feel sadz….. I have a theory that most of the good women get snapped up early because A. They are lovable so find a guy quickly. The guy knows what he's got and won't let her go. Because she is a good girl she works at the relationship and keeps her man and herself happy. Thanks Sane Man, you're so right. The good ones get snatched quickly. But they also often get re-released through divorce or breakup because their man doesn't grow and mature the same way she does. In order to attract such quality women you should focus on your own purpose, your own happiness, and your own path. Know what I mean? Don't get jaded from past rejection or disappointments, that's all part of the fun seeking the right woman. Learn and let go, grow and move on. Thanks alot man, this will help really help me in search of a real woman, you know someone to really settle down with, because with all the points mentioned above is something that I'm sure all guys will want to avoid. You're the best man for helping out the fellas.